FEAR of the “Unknown” (A Souls Journey)

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Why do we fear the unknown?

This subject may seem obvious but there are some interesting aspects about this that I find fascinating.

To start with what is FEAR?

Fear is an emotion; and emotions bury FEELINGS. Fear like anger comes up after experiencing a FEELING; in most cases it takes a split second after feeling the feeling; then comes the FEAR to bury it. Feelings like helplessness, powerless; no one wants to feel feelings of a negative nature. Fear can be a good thing also; it can save your life; fright and flight in the case of a big bear confronting you in the woods.

We fear the unknown because we do not have any choices with an unknown. With a known we have choices; you can act on the information or choose to do nothing; but an unknown places you in a place of helplessness or powerlessness. The mind puts up pictures and your imagination goes wild not knowing what it is; (which makes you FEEL helpless!!!)

It is a perfectly normal human reaction to fear the unknown; what is ahead of me in the dark in a wild life reserve?? The pain I have in my stomach that the doctors cannot tell me what is causing it!! Is it cancer? Why can’t they tell me what it is? The imaginations kick in and thinks the worst.

Now an interesting thing about all this is that whatever the answer is to your questions; good or bad you are relieved to find out what it is; even if it is cancer; you are still relieved; “now you can try to do something about it” your power is restored again to some extent. In these circumstances most people still hand their power over to doctors to deal with it but at least they are relieved to know what it is; hence takes away the feeling of helplessness.
All this helplessness is subconscious of course; they just feel the fear; but now they have something else to contend with; they now feel they have some control over their destiny.

Take control over the UNKNOWN.
The future is an unknown; a lot of people consciously fear the future for many different reasons; some are born in war-torn countries; or under developed countries with unstable governments; or fear their financial future.

There are others that have isolated themselves in safe places and control every part of their lives to the last detail; these people do not fear the future “consciously” but “unconsciously” they do; because of the amount of effort they have put into trying to make their world safe and control everything around them. People who have a lot of money are afraid of losing it and the ones that do not have money fear because they may not be able to sustain their existence.

Embracing the UNKNOWN forces you to live in the NOW!!

Living in the moment means NOW!!! If you are in your head thinking you are not living in the NOW. If you are in your mind referencing anything; you can only be either in the past or the future, NOT the present. I use the word referencing because it is a conscious effort; as opposed to thought drifting in and out of the mind that is spontaneous; you can be in the NOW and have spontaneous thought popping in and out like we do when we are writing and being creative. We must be in our feelings to experience the NOW; and feeling is the gap between thoughts.

So planning every detail of any venture we take on (“other that constructing a building or material construction of any description”) is taking away any spontaneous action that allows you to be in present time. Planning too much sets up an expectation which sets you up for disappointment and does not allow you to experience the present moment; because you are too busy in your head trying to organize everything and you miss the present; the journey!!!

Life is a Journey; not arriving anywhere.
I have always been a person who is very curious and inquisitive and loves adventure; as I have got older my adventurous days have increased. It wasn’t until I became aware of dealing with the unknown that I made a conscious decision to challenge myself and make the unknown exciting and welcomed what was around the corner with excitement and enthusiasm. This way I live in the moment without any expectations of what might be round the corner; and do not set myself up for disappointments where possible.

EXAMPLE: It is funny; most people plan a holiday or their entire life and do so with great detail to see and do things that they have always wanted to do. In most cases these holidays NEVER pan out exactly the way they were supposed to; if you do all the things you had planned; there is no room for being spontaneous; in the NOW.

I love living in Asia (Thailand); and here you have to live in the NOW to stay alive; especially when driving which I do a lot of; then the challenge of crossing a road without getting run over!!! This keeps me in present time; no time to slacken off; it comes naturally!!

Ever taken off for a drive and had no plans for the day except to have a good time and nice drive? Start driving and then decide which direction you want to go. Stop by a wayside cafe and have a coffee and cake and then start driving with no particular destination and find a lovely place you had not been before; just allowed the day to unfold without any plans.           This is living in the now; allow things to unfold without planning everything and I guarantee you will have a better time without expectations than you ever will if you put expectations on the day.

So use UNKNOWN’S as an excuse for an adventure and challenge yourself to get excited about what is around the corner; and just allow everything to flow without expectations and your life will be filled with extreme adventures and exciting times.

I try not to plan any more than 6 months ahead; and when i do i only put in a skeleton plan; leave out the middle bits for the unknown; if i am traveling i book accommodation when i get here, or just book for one night and sort the rest out when i am there; i just allow things to flow; trust my intuition will lead you in the right direction.

Living on the edge is not for the faint heart-ed but it is worth it; it certainly makes me feel alive and rely on my intuition a lot which helps me to make the right choices.

I am past 71 now; my life is getting easier as it goes on; so i figure i must be doing something right. I feel a lot of gratitude in my life now; for past experiences and my present situation.  I try not to make anything bad; just accept everything as it is and make any event a lesson to grow and be grateful for what I have and create Joy in my life.

I hope you enjoy your venture into the great unknown with excitement and not trepidation.

please any comments are most welcome; and I hope you enjoyed my writing as much as I have writing it. Hope you are all experiencing some Joy and happiness in your lives; LOL Murray

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“Crying” a “Feeling or Emotion?” (A Souls Journey)

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What is the difference between FEELING and EMOTION?

Big difference: Feeling has NO MOVEMENT; it is a SENSATION. When we feel something it gives us a sensation of, hot, cold, rough, smooth, soft, abrasive to name a few. It can also give us a sensation of awareness that something is wrong; or is exciting; or anticipation of something to come; I feel nothing!!! Is a feeling; no movement.

EMOTION: is a “POWERFUL FORCE THAT MOVES”. To emote is to move; like; fear, anger, crying are very powerful emotions that have a lot of energy moving them.

Now let us take crying for example: It is perfectly normal and healthy for humans to cry; in fact it releases chemicals that sedate the mind; the only problems with crying is if it is uncontrollable for a long length of time; that is not so healthy.

Crying is an Emotion; and also a FEELING!

WHY DO WE CRY: We can cry for a couple of reasons?

1) We grieve the LOSS of a loved one; which brings our energy down.
2) We can cry from JOY: which is uplifting for our energy.

EMOTIONS bury FEELINGS:

What is the purpose for crying? When we are crying we cannot FEEL; the EMOTION blocks out the FEELING (pain) that is why when people cry they go in and out of that emotion; they cry for a while and when they stop they feel the pain again and start to cry again. Perfectly normal and healthy in the case of grieving a loved one. However when this grief continues on for an excessively prolonged period of time it is not so healthy for the person who is grieving.

Let me ask you a question? When we are crying; who are we crying for? (In the case of a lost loved one?)

Are you crying for them? NO; you are crying because YOU ARE GOING TO MISS THEM; you are crying out of self-pity; feeling sorry for yourself because you are left behind; Self-pity is a FEELING!!! CRYING is the EMOTION that blocks out the pain.
Now I am not making this bad; I am just telling you how it is; and it is perfectly normal human behavior; it is just that self-pity if indulged in over a long period of time is not healthy and puts us in the victim category which is not a nice place to be. There is always a grieving period after a loved one departs us; and everyone is different; but there should be a reasonable time allowed for people to grieve; if they do not grieve properly then suppressing this can lead to either physical or emotional ill health.
I have grieved many time in my life; and since being aware of the difference between crying and feeling self-pity; having this awareness I make a conscious decision to give myself permission to grieve for a certain length of time; and when I FEEL it is time to let go then I stop. Before I would suppress any emotions and suck it up; that is what men did when I was growing up.

A true story: about someone who kept onto self pity for 15 years.

I had an elderly gentleman come into my clinic one day and he told me he was depressed; ever since this wife died some 15 years ago; he felt depressed. We sat and chatted for a while and he told me about his wife and how much she had done for him when she was alive. It was not until she died that he realized just how much she had done for him; and he did not appreciate her enough while she was alive.
I pointed out to him that his wife would not have done the things she did if she did not love him very much. I also pointed out to him that he was feeling guilty and sorry for himself for not appreciating all the things she had done for him. I also told him that she would not be very happy seeing him like this; she would want him to start living again with the loving memory of her; without the guilt.

I then asked him; “how long are you going to continue feeling guilty and sorry for yourself?” I said to him “isn’t it time you let go of this guilt and self pity and start to appreciate your wife as she was?” He pondered for a while and then smiled; he just said “thank you”.

After a short while he said to me that he was feeling much better and assured me his guilt had gone; he went off happy and I never saw him again.

That experience was just as uplifting for me as it was for him; I never charged him for his visit; the experience was payment enough.

Well hope you enjoyed my blog as much as I have writing it. As usual any comments are most welcome and hope you are all having a great day full or joy and happiness; LOL Murray

“Mind Travel” (A Souls Journey)

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Mind Travel
This is a great subject, but I am not too sure how many people are interested in it!!!

I find it fascinating; anything to do with the 4th and 5th dimension is always an attraction for me. I find the three-dimensional world we live in gets boring once you have achieved what you basically want in life; (materially that is). We all live our lives differently; but we generally follow a certain pattern depending on our income. You get a new car and after a couple of months it is a second-hand car; you buy a new house and pretty soon the novelty wears off; it pretty much goes for all material things. We start out with a small car and then we upgrade to a bigger one and so on with every item we acquire is governed by what we can afford.

Then of course there are other goals we can aspire to which do not involve personal material things; like service to humanity; healing; personal growth; being of service in whatever field you aspire to; takes the attention off yourself and onto a greater good. This kind of goal is endless and should not get boring; but there are times when one needs a break from any occupation to bring you back to ground zero for a short rest and re-evaluation.

MIND TRAVEL: is different from “Astral Traveling”: The conscious and unconscious mind is like a transmitter and receiver; it puts out frequencies and also receives frequencies; just life your TV or Radio; you cannot see these frequencies but they exist; you can FEEL them if you tune yourself to do so. Like your TV or radio the mind can tune into different frequencies; everyone has their unique frequency vibration which can be tuned into. Generally this can be done faster with people you are close to; but once you get good at it you can tune into anyone; of course there is criteria to follow.

Firstly their location; the gender of that person; and anything you know about them is helpful and most importantly get into your FEELINGS. You do this with a STRONG FOCUS on the person or place and visualize the person or place in your mind’s eye; do not analyze the person or place; or do any mental exercise what so ever; relax and get beyond your conscious mind; this will allow you to FEEL. A very STRONG FOCUS puts you in your FEELINGS.
I am sure that you all have experienced putting your attention on someone and then the phone rings or you get an e-mail from that person; you are just tuning into them and they pick up on that inner phone call. I do it all the time; especially with my children; I know when my daughter is having a few dramas in her life; same with my son; and I have a few close friends I tune into their inner phone line; they are thousands of kilometers away; and I may not have called them for weeks; but when I do contact them; my intuition is spot on.

NOW; MIND TRAVEL: let me make this statement; “you are where your attention is!!!” It is as simple as that; this is all about AWARENESS; being aware of what we are doing every minute of the day. If you are sitting at home having a day off and your attention is somewhere else other than your surroundings; you are where your attention has taken you. Your attention is the sum of “who you are” at any moment in present time!!! Ever been talking to someone and they have a glazed look in their eyes; (especially small children) they are not with you; the light is on but no one is home; they are where their attention is.

Try doing a little exercise when it is appropriate for you. Get yourself comfortable where you will not be interrupted and put your attention on someone you know or love (that is not in your presence) and see if you can FEEL what is going on in their life at that moment; take note of the date and time and when you catch up with them ask them about what you experienced. Ask them if they were thinking of you around that time; chances are they were.

Now the cool part about all this is you do not have to pay for expensive plane rides or hotel bills; just get a travel brochure and get in a comfortable place and put your attention on the place you would like to go; and FEEL what it feels like to be there. Do that until you can FEEL the place and I guarantee if you decide to go there you will feel like; “you have already been there before”. Tuning into people is much easier; because they are not spruced up like a travel brochure; travel brochures sometimes can be misleading; but I am sure you get the idea.

A poem i have had with me for over 50 years about the mind; i would love to share it with you; it is called:  

“AS A MAN THINKITH” by James Allen.

As a man thinkith in his heart so is he

For man is mind and ever more he takes the tool of thought and shapes what he wills

Brings forth a thousand joys and a thousand ills

He thinks in secret and it comes to pass

Environment is but his looking-glass;

Hope you enjoyed this blog; if you have any questions or queries please do not hesitate to ask; or just comment on my blog; feedback is always welcome. As always hope you are have a great day and your life is filled with joy and happiness. LOL Murray

Why Do We Dream? (A Souls Journey)

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Why Do We Dream?
Great question which will get you many answers from all corners of the globe.

Dreams have been the subject of research for many years; from scientific studies to esoterical explanations for the reason we dream. A lot of the research that has been done concentrates on what the brain is doing and how active it is at certain vibratory rates etc. There is also many people who have studied dreams and have an art of deciphering the meaning of dreams, the interpretation of a dream is from their experiences. My x-wife has had several dreams that came true about relatives and friends; it is a fascinating subject.

Now here is my take on it: once again from my own experiences: I have mentioned in many blogs about resistance and how we resist our feelings; especially the negative ones that make us feel bad. (If you are not familiar with my explanation on resistance then I suggest you read some of my blogs that cover the subject in detail).
During the daytime we are confronted with all sorts of situations that we push aside and either make a decision to deal with it later; or just hope it goes away. We constantly live in our mind thinking during our working day or when we are having time out; we still find ourselves contemplating things; going over our day or week or where we are heading with our life or career etc. We never seem to get out of our head, thinking. Now when we go to sleep; the mind is at rest and the unconscious mind takes over; NO RESISTANCE; this allows the feeling part of our consciousness to start expressing itself. The subconscious mind has no resistance to stop feelings from arising; both good and bad feelings. These feelings are played out in the form of pictures which we call dreams; which can vary in clarity and intensity. A strong dream with high intensity we call a night mare if it is negative; and of course it can work in the same way if the dream is a loving uplifting dream. Either way when we awaken from either of these experiences of high intensity the residue is still with us sometimes for days later; they seemed so real. So what we think we are avoiding in the waking state it can catch up with us in the dream state. Now it has nothing to do with what you see visually in the dream; but how it makes you FEEL that matters. You can have a ridicules dream that seems like it has no meaning what so ever, or you can not relate to any aspect of what it presented to you; but the important thing is how you FEEL about what happened that matters.
A true story about one of my clients who was experiencing a re-occurring night mare. A woman called me one day and asked me if I could help her; she was experiencing a night mare that would not go away. I have never physically me this woman; she was referred to me by one of my clients; we worked over the phone; and this was her story before we commenced to work on her problem.
She had been in an abusive relationship for many years and divorced that person; now she was in another relationship engaged to be married; in both cases she experienced the same night mare. I asked her if she could make herself comfortable and not be disturbed for about an hour; I also asked her if she was willing to revisit the night mare; she agreed. I asked her to close her eyes and go back to the scene of the night mare; I told her i did not want to know a things about what the night mare involved; just what she was experiencing in the way of FEELINGS that arose from the scene she was looking at. After a considerable time SHE finally found the (main resisted feeling); it turned out to be “helplessness”. She felt helpless in this new relationship; the same as the first one that treated her badly; she felt trapped to do anything about it; (Emotional abuse is just as destructive as physical abuse). This new relationship she had attracted the same kind of person into her life; remember “like attracts like”; she attracted her greatest fear; this was unconsciously of course.
It was not long after the work we did over the phone that she left that person; she got her power back and realized after looking back on her life how she was affected by this resisted feeling of HELPLESSNESS; just what it had stopped her from doing and achieving in her life. Last time I heard from her she was doing really well and starting to explore all sorts of possibilities.
There is an interesting thing about helplessness; I have discover through my work that people who resist helplessness generally do it in a grand fashion and it is normally created as a child from a near death experience; like nearly drowning. Feeling helpless is the worst experience one could ever have; like jumping out of a plane without a parachute; there is nothing whatsoever you can do about the predicament. Same as drowning; suffocating; having a gun pointed at your head, etc. People who resist this feeling encounters these experiences; I can guarantee that.

Well once again I hope you liked my blog as much as I have writing about it; please any feedback is most welcome. Hope you all are having a great day; LOL Murray

Celestial Traveler (A Souls Journey)

Galactic Travel

Story about a celestial traveler holidaying on earth.

“In a far off galaxy in the middle of the universe, there lives a group of beings called

“The Time Lords”, who watch over all creation. They are responsible for maintaining the evolution of all life forms throughout their domain. Every so often each one goes on vacation.

One of them was called “Crobe”, and his turn came up to have a holiday. So, he contacted his galaxy travel agent to see what was available. “Well Crobe, his travel agent said, “we have on the outer edges of our own star system the “Red” planet, where you can just lay back and enjoy every pleasure in existence.”

Crobe replied; “I went there last time and it is wonderful, but I want something move exotic;” Well then, how about the “Green” planet in the start cluster 401, where you just lay back in the mist of perfect tranquility and peace; very popular at the moment”; “No”, Crobe answered, “I want something more challenging.”

The travel agent looked thoughtful for a moment, then said. “Ah, I think I have just the thing for you. In the far reaches of the universe there is a very small star cluster called the “Milky Way”; God knows where they got the name from. In it, there is this “Blue” planet where you can play lots of games with yourself, and other “Time Lords” who are on holiday there. The principal game is “hide and seek; very popular with everyone who goes there; and before you go, you get to select how many lifetimes you want, and which principle game you play in each life. As there is no time in our dimension, you can have any number of lifetimes. Then, once there, you give up all memory of who you are, so that you can seek yourself with each life game.

Between games you get to select which principal game you want to play in finding yourself for the next one, as well as what gender you want. With each life time game, there are a couple of very funny games called “families and relationships”. “You’ll get a million laughs out of those ones.”

Crobe looked interested. “This sounds great. Tell me some of the other games I can play while I’m trying to find myself”.
“Well, there is quite a list of them; and you get to play almost all of them throughout your vacation.” A very popular one is called “the warrior” game. This is to see how many times you can get killed in battle, or die violently, while helping other vacationers do the same. It’s so funny, and the funniest thing about this one is, that everyone takes it so seriously; most get to play this about 200 times.

You’ll kill yourself laughing at this one; it is the “Merchant game”. This is to see how many times you can get rich, and loose it all in one lifetime; very interesting and entertaining.

What about this one; it is called the “Workers” game. The idea is to do the same thing every day for eight hours a day for about fifty years. You are given just enough money to feed your family and get drunk occasionally; or if your gender is female, you get to see how many times you can clean your house, and cook meals before you wear your body out. I haven’t quite figured this one out yet, but I think it is to assist other vacationers back into the game that they call “Birth”.

But this one you’ll love; it’s called the “learning” game; which is to see how many systems and concepts called philosophies in finding yourself that you can collect in one game. Once you get good at this one, it stretches out into what is called “The Teachers” or “Guru” game, where you think you are enlightened, and help other vacationers to play the “Learning” game.

But the most popular of all, and here is the good news, you get to play this one, along with each of the other games it’s called the “victim-suffering” game. This will knock you over with laughter; you get to see how many situations you can turn into disasters; how many times you can die from disease; how many times you can cause, what they call “feelings of unhappiness”. Apparently, you have to train your mind to make things wrong and judge them as bad. I could never get the hang of it myself; apparently they send you to a special school to learn it properly. Prior to that, you get an initial training in it from other vacationers who are playing the “Parent” game. With practice you will soon get it though”. Crobe; “this sounds great; sign me up”.

I really love that little story because it is so true and so humorous; we need to lighten up and not take everything so seriously.
This little story was discovered by myself in a book about 15 years ago; (I cannot remember the name of the book) and in that book the author could not remember where he got it from; so I cannot acknowledge the original author of this story; sorry about that; but it is a great story I think.

Just thought I would lighten it up a bit today: hope you are all having a great day and joyous and happy life; any comments are most welcome; LOL Murray

Illness is a learned Behavior (A Souls Journey)

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I realize I am throwing the cat among the pigeons with this statement; when I first heard about it, I thought (“what a lot of hogwash”).
You really need to have an open mind about what I am about to tell you; otherwise you may miss out on some valuable information.

Throughout many years of running a Natural Therapy Clinic and years of research I have come to realize that this statement is so true; we really do create illness for attention at least 80% of the time.

Let me ask you a question: When a baby wants attention what do they do? Cry right; they soon learn to get attention that way. Now when I was growing up one of two things happened; at first I got the attention I was wanting; but after a while my parents woke up to my antics; they would let me cry till I gave up or went to sleep.
Once that method stopped working I soon learned that when I got sick; WOW what attention I got then; I developed POLIO when I was 3 years old for attention. Now; no 3-year-old goes out and says to itself that they are going to create polio for attention; right? WRONG!

Subconsciously I attracted the disease for attention because it was going around then and I was susceptible to attracting it because my needs were not being met; of course I did not know then what polio was.
All human beings have a basic need from DAY ONE to be loved unconditionally, liked and appreciated, above all things; and they will go to great lengths to meet this goal. A very young child has not got to a reasoning state yet, so they do the next best thing they know what gets them attention; and plenty of it; GET SICK!!! Whenever my kids got sick I would say to them “you want some love and attention do you” and give them a big hug and spend some quality time; (“undivided attention time with them”); and in most cases I did not have to give them any natural medication.

Following on; let me make this statement; “there is always an upside to an illness!!!” Sometimes I would asked my patients “what is the advantage of this illness or ailment you have?” They would always protest; “no advantage”!!! Then I would ask them a question “what don’t you have to do as a result of this illness or ailment”; when getting them to look at what they had created they would agree with me and come to a positive conclusion about their ailment. Of course there were people in total denial; but most people who could see what was happening; would always heal very quickly. Of course I had to use discretion as to who I posed that question to; but in most cases it was life changing for the ones who had a realization.

My Advantage: my polio left me with one leg shorter than the other; I had massage 3 times a week from the time I was 8 years old till I was 12 years old; (4 years). The masseuse taught me to tell the time, gave me his fishing rod and taught me beach fishing; and became like a father to me; as my relationship with my own father was pretty strained at that time. What a great deal!!! Both my legs are the same now and it got me over a rough time in my life growing up with an absent father.

Another example of a created ailment: One day a woman came to me with a tennis elbow; I had treated many of these ailments and new exactly how to fix it straight away by adjusting her neck; 3rd cervical. But I also knew she created this problem and she needed to realize how she had done it for my treatment to last; or she would be back in a couple of days with the same problem. So I asked her a question “are you right-handed?” (injured arm) “she said yes”. I said; “what advantage is it to you not being able to use your right arm?”. She smiled at me and said; “she had divorce papers that had sat on her table for 4 weeks now and she had not got around to signing them”. We chatted about her creation and she realized that her procrastination had brought on the tennis elbow; I adjusted her neck and it was instantly fixed and she did not need to see me again. I knew if I had not have made her realize she created her situation she would not have healed permanently.

The body is designed to heal itself; “given the right environment”; you cut yourself and provided the wound is kept clean it will heal itself. If the wound get dirt in it; it will get infected; not rocket science. If you eat garbage food; toxic food like take-a-ways; fast food filled with additives; don’t expect to stay healthy. It is amazing what the body is capable of when it comes to what we poke down our necks; but constant subjection to abuse and the body will say enough is enough and you develop a disease. I always say to people; “you put water were the petrol is supposed to go in your car” and see how far you get; same as your body; you cannot keep feeding it rubbish and expect it to work properly. The same applies to your mental state and stress levels and the mind; they interfere with the normal function of your body; and can change hormonal levels and create problems that are reversible but not with normal medical medication.

Think about this: your body consists of about 80% water; the rest is minerals; same as in the earth outside!!! Different formula of minerals, but same minerals; ion, calcium, and the list goes on; you get the picture.
Getting down to physics; water is H2o; 2 part hydrogen; one part oxygen; the combination is vibrating at a certain frequency to make the substance water as we know it. Now this is MATTER; which cannot be destroyed; it can be changed or transformed; but can not be destroyed; SCIENTIFIC FACT.

EXAMPLE: Take water as we know it;“through a bucket of water over someone and all that happens is they get wet”; right? Now by either adding an element to water or taking one away we can change the characteristic and make that matter quite different. Freezing water changes the total characteristic of that substance that could kill someone by throwing a block of ice at their head. Likewise if we add heat to the same water it is evaporated into the atmosphere; the statement I made is “MATTER CAN NOT BE DESTROYED” it can be changed by adding an element or taking one away; but can NOT be destroyed. water being the most important element in our bodies; we can only survive about 3 days without water; but we can live 3-4 weeks without food.

The reason why I have gone to great lengths to explain this is; to make you aware that our entire body is a vibrating mass of frequencies that form the physical body. A holistic approach to disease; body mind and spirit; has to be taken into account when treating disease; and an understanding of just how everything is put together. Genetics is just coded memory; I have seen it changed; that has been my experience; I do not expect you to accept this unless you have a really open mind; and explore the possibilities yourself; you will not find the answer in any science books!!! I do accept that genetics can plays a role in many diseases; however these diseases have been known to have improved or cured in some occasions with “energy medicine”.
Now the body being a vibrating mass of combined energy; organs vibrate at different frequencies to form different substances and each organs vibrates at its own frequency: when we have a heart problem the frequency of that organ is effected; treat the frequency and the heart recovers. What is going to influence the well-being of the human body?? You go it; the mind puts out powerful frequencies; the food we eat puts out frequencies; and both or any one of these items can cause a problem with the overall harmony that the body requires for healing. So attention must be taken to find the problem that is causing the illness; and in about 80% of illnesses is caused by the mind and mental anguish of some description; masked in physical ailments or psychological illness of some sort or another.
Treating these ailments takes a great deal of insight into the nature of human beings and the knowledge of quantum physics; and how everything fits in this universe. The human spirit is one of the most important aspects to healing; and that can only be taken care of once the cause has been established.
I know in many cases where there is proof that a certain hormone is causing a psychosis; or menopausal problem; etc. but if it occurs in one person then why does it not occur in everyone; men and women are all wired the same way physically; our bodies are all the same from day one, unless we are born with a deformity. Now science will put it down to genetics; or hormones; I say rubbish; I have seen people with hormonal problems in a number of ailments heal after treating them from all aspects of natural healing; body, mind and spirit. My first cancer patient I ever helped was given 6 months to live with stomach and lymphatic cancer; 6 month after she first saw me they could not detect a thing wrong with her. She was 62 years old; 14 years later she was still going strong. Now do not like to take credit for her well-being; but I will say she followed my advice down to every detail; and I reinforced to her that she was the one who was healing herself; I was just guiding her through a rough patch in her life and she was the one sticking to the diet and following my advice; she was in charge of her own health. (There was some “energy medicine” being applied as well)

I started off by stating we create our own illness for attention which is a learned behavior; I can give you many examples of this in my own life; however I will save that for another blog.
There is a lot more to this article that can be said but I am trying to cut it to a readable amount to stimulate your interest or challenge what I am saying. My blog is about “The Hidden Course of Illness” and I firmly believe we create our own illness 80% of the time; either consciously or unconsciously.
My next blog will be about ENERGY MEDICINE; that phrase seems to have caught on in the past few years and is accepted as a valid therapy; but when I was practicing it in 1982-93; it worked so successfully that I stopped using it publicly; it was not credible at the time with the limited knowledge people had of any Natural Therapy; but it worked very well and produced miracle results sometimes. In those days I had to keep reasonably close to the norm as possible when treating people; and slip in treatments without the patient know what I was doing; otherwise I would not have had a business.
Energy medicine deals with quantum physics (intelligent sub-atomic particles) and how we are a mass of vibrating matter that can be altered to overcome disease both physically and emotionally.
I hope I have evoked some thinking among you if you have never considered what I have written and certainly urge you to challenge what I have said if you want to; and I will respond if you wish. Hope you all are having a joyful and happy life and I look forward to publishing my next post; LOL Murray

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How i Created A Perfect Identity (A Souls Journey)

What I am about to tell you is in no way blaming my parents for what happened to me growing up; they did what they did to the best of their ability at the time; I did not come with parenting instructions; but I needed to understand this identity to be able to function in the world and be able to get in touch with the real me and start to FEEL again.

I mentioned in a previous writing that both my parents were perfectionists; my mother was particularly controlling; she also had a big complex about her weight and had rejection issues. When I was born I was wanted; she had produced the only grandson among all the girls in the extended family; now she was the center of attention.
Growing up as a young child during the second world war was not easy; we lived on a 100 acre orchard which my grandfather owned; we had our separate house; but mother was a city girl and did not like the country life all that much. I was an inquisitive child and ventured out quite a bit and was quite rebellious; very normal for a young child. I did not do what I was told very often; I soon learned that when I was being myself and being a normal child that got into things and made a mess around the place; I got a hiding or scolding; mother had a pretty good temper when she was challenged. In the early days children were seen and not heard; you spoke when you are spoken to; otherwise be quiet. Also it was OK for a man to get angry; but he was not allowed to show any emotion; whereas for a women it was OK to show emotion but was not supposed to show angry.
So I learned that when I was being good I was loved and when I was being NORMAL and myself I was not loved or accepted. It is called CONDITIONAL love; I was not loved unconditionally. So I developed this PERFECT identity to be accepted by my parents; while I was doing nothing and being inconspicuous and not getting into things with my curious mind; I was loved; but when I was being myself I was not accepted and either got scolded or a hiding; “I got plenty of hidings”.

Now there were 2 identities; the accepted me; (perfect identity) and the (real me); my true “soul” self. Growing up I soon learned how to gain more acceptance by my peers; I used to work in the orchard from about 4 years of age till we left when I was about 9 years old. I was 6ft tall when I was 12 years old so I was treated like an adult at a very early age. I was praised for my ability to work hard; so I learned to be a workaholic very young; once again to be accepted; i was praised for being a great worker. Perfectionists are very aware of their surroundings and the people around them; so they spend a great deal of time monitoring everything; this is where the control comes in; and it is also very trying.
Over many years of living as this “perfect identity” i developed a lot more personalities to this identity; I become totally detached from my true self; I could put my arms around my children and give them a big hug; but I could not FEEL any depth to my affections; it was horrible; there was a vacuum there; the identity had no feeling.

It was after a workshop I did on personal growth in my early fifties when I broke this identity and started to feel again and got back to living my true self (free of this identity). The experience was indescribable and life changing and I am so grateful to the person who helped me back to life again.
Obviously there is a lot more that can be said about this perfect identity but I think you get the idea. The perfect identity is just one of many identities we develop to cope emotionally in the world; we develop what I call a FALSE SELF to show the world; a mask we hind behind; but it is not the REAL you.
The interesting thing about identities is; they are hard to detect by the person who is running them; they think that the identity is the real person and not something that they created to cope emotionally.
Well I will leave it at that; hope you enjoyed my writing and as always any comments are most welcome; wish you all the Joy and happiness; LOL Murray