Illness is a learned Behavior (A Souls Journey)

The Parenting game 2
I realize I am throwing the cat among the pigeons with this statement; when I first heard about it, I thought (“what a lot of hogwash”).
You really need to have an open mind about what I am about to tell you; otherwise you may miss out on some valuable information.

Throughout many years of running a Natural Therapy Clinic and years of research I have come to realize that this statement is so true; we really do create illness for attention at least 80% of the time.

Let me ask you a question: When a baby wants attention what do they do? Cry right; they soon learn to get attention that way. Now when I was growing up one of two things happened; at first I got the attention I was wanting; but after a while my parents woke up to my antics; they would let me cry till I gave up or went to sleep.
Once that method stopped working I soon learned that when I got sick; WOW what attention I got then; I developed POLIO when I was 3 years old for attention. Now; no 3-year-old goes out and says to itself that they are going to create polio for attention; right? WRONG!

Subconsciously I attracted the disease for attention because it was going around then and I was susceptible to attracting it because my needs were not being met; of course I did not know then what polio was.
All human beings have a basic need from DAY ONE to be loved unconditionally, liked and appreciated, above all things; and they will go to great lengths to meet this goal. A very young child has not got to a reasoning state yet, so they do the next best thing they know what gets them attention; and plenty of it; GET SICK!!! Whenever my kids got sick I would say to them “you want some love and attention do you” and give them a big hug and spend some quality time; (“undivided attention time with them”); and in most cases I did not have to give them any natural medication.

Following on; let me make this statement; “there is always an upside to an illness!!!” Sometimes I would asked my patients “what is the advantage of this illness or ailment you have?” They would always protest; “no advantage”!!! Then I would ask them a question “what don’t you have to do as a result of this illness or ailment”; when getting them to look at what they had created they would agree with me and come to a positive conclusion about their ailment. Of course there were people in total denial; but most people who could see what was happening; would always heal very quickly. Of course I had to use discretion as to who I posed that question to; but in most cases it was life changing for the ones who had a realization.

My Advantage: my polio left me with one leg shorter than the other; I had massage 3 times a week from the time I was 8 years old till I was 12 years old; (4 years). The masseuse taught me to tell the time, gave me his fishing rod and taught me beach fishing; and became like a father to me; as my relationship with my own father was pretty strained at that time. What a great deal!!! Both my legs are the same now and it got me over a rough time in my life growing up with an absent father.

Another example of a created ailment: One day a woman came to me with a tennis elbow; I had treated many of these ailments and new exactly how to fix it straight away by adjusting her neck; 3rd cervical. But I also knew she created this problem and she needed to realize how she had done it for my treatment to last; or she would be back in a couple of days with the same problem. So I asked her a question “are you right-handed?” (injured arm) “she said yes”. I said; “what advantage is it to you not being able to use your right arm?”. She smiled at me and said; “she had divorce papers that had sat on her table for 4 weeks now and she had not got around to signing them”. We chatted about her creation and she realized that her procrastination had brought on the tennis elbow; I adjusted her neck and it was instantly fixed and she did not need to see me again. I knew if I had not have made her realize she created her situation she would not have healed permanently.

The body is designed to heal itself; “given the right environment”; you cut yourself and provided the wound is kept clean it will heal itself. If the wound get dirt in it; it will get infected; not rocket science. If you eat garbage food; toxic food like take-a-ways; fast food filled with additives; don’t expect to stay healthy. It is amazing what the body is capable of when it comes to what we poke down our necks; but constant subjection to abuse and the body will say enough is enough and you develop a disease. I always say to people; “you put water were the petrol is supposed to go in your car” and see how far you get; same as your body; you cannot keep feeding it rubbish and expect it to work properly. The same applies to your mental state and stress levels and the mind; they interfere with the normal function of your body; and can change hormonal levels and create problems that are reversible but not with normal medical medication.

Think about this: your body consists of about 80% water; the rest is minerals; same as in the earth outside!!! Different formula of minerals, but same minerals; ion, calcium, and the list goes on; you get the picture.
Getting down to physics; water is H2o; 2 part hydrogen; one part oxygen; the combination is vibrating at a certain frequency to make the substance water as we know it. Now this is MATTER; which cannot be destroyed; it can be changed or transformed; but can not be destroyed; SCIENTIFIC FACT.

EXAMPLE: Take water as we know it;“through a bucket of water over someone and all that happens is they get wet”; right? Now by either adding an element to water or taking one away we can change the characteristic and make that matter quite different. Freezing water changes the total characteristic of that substance that could kill someone by throwing a block of ice at their head. Likewise if we add heat to the same water it is evaporated into the atmosphere; the statement I made is “MATTER CAN NOT BE DESTROYED” it can be changed by adding an element or taking one away; but can NOT be destroyed. water being the most important element in our bodies; we can only survive about 3 days without water; but we can live 3-4 weeks without food.

The reason why I have gone to great lengths to explain this is; to make you aware that our entire body is a vibrating mass of frequencies that form the physical body. A holistic approach to disease; body mind and spirit; has to be taken into account when treating disease; and an understanding of just how everything is put together. Genetics is just coded memory; I have seen it changed; that has been my experience; I do not expect you to accept this unless you have a really open mind; and explore the possibilities yourself; you will not find the answer in any science books!!! I do accept that genetics can plays a role in many diseases; however these diseases have been known to have improved or cured in some occasions with “energy medicine”.
Now the body being a vibrating mass of combined energy; organs vibrate at different frequencies to form different substances and each organs vibrates at its own frequency: when we have a heart problem the frequency of that organ is effected; treat the frequency and the heart recovers. What is going to influence the well-being of the human body?? You go it; the mind puts out powerful frequencies; the food we eat puts out frequencies; and both or any one of these items can cause a problem with the overall harmony that the body requires for healing. So attention must be taken to find the problem that is causing the illness; and in about 80% of illnesses is caused by the mind and mental anguish of some description; masked in physical ailments or psychological illness of some sort or another.
Treating these ailments takes a great deal of insight into the nature of human beings and the knowledge of quantum physics; and how everything fits in this universe. The human spirit is one of the most important aspects to healing; and that can only be taken care of once the cause has been established.
I know in many cases where there is proof that a certain hormone is causing a psychosis; or menopausal problem; etc. but if it occurs in one person then why does it not occur in everyone; men and women are all wired the same way physically; our bodies are all the same from day one, unless we are born with a deformity. Now science will put it down to genetics; or hormones; I say rubbish; I have seen people with hormonal problems in a number of ailments heal after treating them from all aspects of natural healing; body, mind and spirit. My first cancer patient I ever helped was given 6 months to live with stomach and lymphatic cancer; 6 month after she first saw me they could not detect a thing wrong with her. She was 62 years old; 14 years later she was still going strong. Now do not like to take credit for her well-being; but I will say she followed my advice down to every detail; and I reinforced to her that she was the one who was healing herself; I was just guiding her through a rough patch in her life and she was the one sticking to the diet and following my advice; she was in charge of her own health. (There was some “energy medicine” being applied as well)

I started off by stating we create our own illness for attention which is a learned behavior; I can give you many examples of this in my own life; however I will save that for another blog.
There is a lot more to this article that can be said but I am trying to cut it to a readable amount to stimulate your interest or challenge what I am saying. My blog is about “The Hidden Course of Illness” and I firmly believe we create our own illness 80% of the time; either consciously or unconsciously.
My next blog will be about ENERGY MEDICINE; that phrase seems to have caught on in the past few years and is accepted as a valid therapy; but when I was practicing it in 1982-93; it worked so successfully that I stopped using it publicly; it was not credible at the time with the limited knowledge people had of any Natural Therapy; but it worked very well and produced miracle results sometimes. In those days I had to keep reasonably close to the norm as possible when treating people; and slip in treatments without the patient know what I was doing; otherwise I would not have had a business.
Energy medicine deals with quantum physics (intelligent sub-atomic particles) and how we are a mass of vibrating matter that can be altered to overcome disease both physically and emotionally.
I hope I have evoked some thinking among you if you have never considered what I have written and certainly urge you to challenge what I have said if you want to; and I will respond if you wish. Hope you all are having a joyful and happy life and I look forward to publishing my next post; LOL Murray

Copyright 2005


How i Created A Perfect Identity (A Souls Journey)

What I am about to tell you is in no way blaming my parents for what happened to me growing up; they did what they did to the best of their ability at the time; I did not come with parenting instructions; but I needed to understand this identity to be able to function in the world and be able to get in touch with the real me and start to FEEL again.

I mentioned in a previous writing that both my parents were perfectionists; my mother was particularly controlling; she also had a big complex about her weight and had rejection issues. When I was born I was wanted; she had produced the only grandson among all the girls in the extended family; now she was the center of attention.
Growing up as a young child during the second world war was not easy; we lived on a 100 acre orchard which my grandfather owned; we had our separate house; but mother was a city girl and did not like the country life all that much. I was an inquisitive child and ventured out quite a bit and was quite rebellious; very normal for a young child. I did not do what I was told very often; I soon learned that when I was being myself and being a normal child that got into things and made a mess around the place; I got a hiding or scolding; mother had a pretty good temper when she was challenged. In the early days children were seen and not heard; you spoke when you are spoken to; otherwise be quiet. Also it was OK for a man to get angry; but he was not allowed to show any emotion; whereas for a women it was OK to show emotion but was not supposed to show angry.
So I learned that when I was being good I was loved and when I was being NORMAL and myself I was not loved or accepted. It is called CONDITIONAL love; I was not loved unconditionally. So I developed this PERFECT identity to be accepted by my parents; while I was doing nothing and being inconspicuous and not getting into things with my curious mind; I was loved; but when I was being myself I was not accepted and either got scolded or a hiding; “I got plenty of hidings”.

Now there were 2 identities; the accepted me; (perfect identity) and the (real me); my true “soul” self. Growing up I soon learned how to gain more acceptance by my peers; I used to work in the orchard from about 4 years of age till we left when I was about 9 years old. I was 6ft tall when I was 12 years old so I was treated like an adult at a very early age. I was praised for my ability to work hard; so I learned to be a workaholic very young; once again to be accepted; i was praised for being a great worker. Perfectionists are very aware of their surroundings and the people around them; so they spend a great deal of time monitoring everything; this is where the control comes in; and it is also very trying.
Over many years of living as this “perfect identity” i developed a lot more personalities to this identity; I become totally detached from my true self; I could put my arms around my children and give them a big hug; but I could not FEEL any depth to my affections; it was horrible; there was a vacuum there; the identity had no feeling.

It was after a workshop I did on personal growth in my early fifties when I broke this identity and started to feel again and got back to living my true self (free of this identity). The experience was indescribable and life changing and I am so grateful to the person who helped me back to life again.
Obviously there is a lot more that can be said about this perfect identity but I think you get the idea. The perfect identity is just one of many identities we develop to cope emotionally in the world; we develop what I call a FALSE SELF to show the world; a mask we hind behind; but it is not the REAL you.
The interesting thing about identities is; they are hard to detect by the person who is running them; they think that the identity is the real person and not something that they created to cope emotionally.
Well I will leave it at that; hope you enjoyed my writing and as always any comments are most welcome; wish you all the Joy and happiness; LOL Murray